I’d love to say this post is on a positive note.
Sadly, that isn’t the case.
When I started this blog, I knew I’d need patience in waiting for its popularity to build. The progress has been quite steady and is building slowly. Some posts are more popular than others which is only to be expected depending on the subject matter. In the past week, the follows on my blog have increased and I’ve met some frankly amazing people. You know exactly who you are.
I made the decision to make my blog a general and all-encompassing one rather than restrain my writing by discussing just one subject. This is where my self-made quote comes from; “The world is a subject with many subcategories. Why not talk about them all?”
This has perhaps proven detrimental in some ways as it doesn’t apply to one target audience and that’s why some of my posts have a large amount of hits and some have decidedly few. I accept that as an occupational hazard.
However, there are a few things I’m finding rather difficult to grasp.
We pretty much all have a Facebook account in the first world nowadays. Let’s be honest; it’s how most all of us stay in touch with people we know. I have five-hundred and thirty-eight friends on my list at present. I didn’t even realise I knew so many folk.
So I’ve obviously got a fair few friends and accomplices. Now here’s the thing that troubles me. I have a page on Facebook dedicated to this blog. That too is named Paul.E.Bailey’s World. It currently has forty-seven likes and not all of those ‘likers’ are on my Facebook friends list.
Am I just being daft, or is that an absolutely shockingly small amount of likes for my page when compared to the amount of friends I apparently have? I sent personal invites to all my friends last week. You know how many responded by liking the page? One! Just one!
It doesn’t stop there. When I post links to my page, my blog or a post on my blog I’m very lucky if I get ten likes. It’s a good day if I get between five and ten, but generally I get less than five likes per post. Then I see status updates about somebody going on holiday or something they’re having for tea and that’s managed to amass thirty, forty, fifty or even more likes.
I always use asterisks to block out certain letters when using swearwords in my blog, but not today! WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON?! Seriously; are my so-called friends taking the piss?
I fully appreciate that people are busy and have more important things to do than read my blog. I have absolutely no problem with that. But is it really so hard to humour me and just like my Facebook page and my posts? The answer is no! It’s as damned simple as that. More likes gives me more exposure. It’s not a difficult thing to work out.
Is this a recurring problem for most people? Do you seem to have trouble garnering genuine support from people? There are certain people who I know always read my stuff and like my posts and I am honestly so grateful for those people. They’re the reason I don’t just give up. That and I enjoy blogging.
Confidence is something I’ve never had a massive amount of so it takes all my willpower not to just throw in the towel when people simply aren’t arsed about what I do. The support of friends goes such a long way so when it appears that they don’t care it makes me feel as though I’m fighting the battle alone. Me against the whole world.
I don’t mind saying that it hurts. When I announce I’m annoyed about it I always get told to be patient and that these things take time. Bollocks! Attracting people that don’t know me and aren’t my friends takes time. Friends should just be prepared to do the minimum to support somebody they claim to care about in some way. Clicking the like tab on my Facebook page takes less than a second. Clicking like on a shared post takes less than a second.
I know there are going to be some people who read this and think ‘shut up moaning’. That is, of course, their prerogative. I make no apologies. What I’m saying in this post needs saying.
The message here is simple; support your friends. If they’re chasing a dream then give them a nudge in that direction. If it’s something as simple as a like on Facebook then just do it!
But let’s just delve into the psyches of these people who have no problem taking the time to watch and like a video of a fucking cat doing something fucking adorable, but are physically unable of doing the bare minimum to help along a friend or family member.
Are they just twats? Are they just horrible cretins that are doing it out of spite? Do they just simply not care at all? Or is it something more sinister? Do they actually want me not to succeed? Does my potential failure in achieving my dream please them in some way? These probably sound like stupid hypotheses to some of you, but this is honestly what starts happening to a person when people who call themselves friends don’t act like it.
I had one friend who liked my page and he messaged me saying “I doubt I’ll read anything you post because I’m not really interested”. You know what? Fair play to that man. I fucking love balls to bones honesty like that. The fact he’s taken the time to give my page a boost is plenty helpful and I massively appreciate that even if he doesn’t want to read my blog. If all my other friends did the same I wouldn’t be bothered.
But in light of the fact that all but one person ignored a direct invite to like my page I think that tells us all exactly what their thoughts on my blog and me as a person are.
I hope so much that one of those people who haven’t shown any support at all read this and write an arsey comment defending themselves. I pray to a god I don’t believe in for it! I’d love to hear their crap excuses.
In light of this shocking display of support from these people I’ve taken the decision not to show any support to any of them from henceforth either. Even if I believe in the cause they’re fighting for. There are some exceptions though. I’ll continue listening to and loving Stu Allan’s Old Skool Nation for example because he’s a hero of mine and I’m only punishing myself by not being involved in his work. Plus I imagine he’s getting invited to like, share and act on all sorts of crap daily owing to his fame. Same with Shaun Lever, and to be fair to Shaun, he has liked and shared some stuff from my blog. He’s a genuinely busy man so I’m flattered he’s taken the time to do so.
I understand people are busy nowadays, but I refuse to believe that around five hundred people are all too busy to like a page, but not too busy to like a meme with a bullshit motivational quote on it.
On a positive note though, I thank every one of those friends who have liked my page, my blog, my posts or anything else connected to my writing even once. The people who actually read my stuff are awesome! I mention Steve a lot, but there isn’t a person who’s supported my writing more than him so he will always receive honourable mentions on merit (Just a few words about…; follow it now).
To my WordPress followers, I appreciate you lot like you wouldn’t believe. I’ve already made some good friends on here and I spend most my time talking to you rather than looking through Facebook nowadays because of you. I’m seeing less and less of the aforementioned bullshit memes daily thanks to you lot.
Those who have supported, will support and are supporting my writing are just the best people and I will return the favour when the chance arises. I hope you’re enjoying my work. There’s an awful lot more to come.
To those who haven’t supported, don’t support and won’t support my writing…well, let’s just hope you don’t need my assistance anytime soon. If I’m not worthy of a simple act of friendship from you then maybe you aren’t worthy of being a friend full stop!
Be a good friend and support people who you care about. You never know when you’ll need them.
Do you agree that these people who can’t show even the most basic level of support are arseholes? Do I care if you don’t agree? Have you read this having never supported me and taken umbrage to what I’ve said? Give me both barrels and prepare to receive four in return!
Please catch up with the follow-up to this post, A Little Help from Myself…, by clicking the link and find out how my mind-set has changed since writing this post.